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Detecting Narcissistic Traits In Your Partner

Maybe you've been wondering why your partner has changed in the past few months or years. It might be that he finally reveals his true self, his narcissistic personality.

It's not always clear if this is a temporary change but if certain things become more prevalent then it's time to take a closer look.

Narcissistic traits range from subtle reactions and micro-expressions to full-blown frontal attacks coming from your partner. A good overview can be found here.

Narcissist tests are a dime a dozen on the net and you might get some clues by answering truthfully. But be prepared for mixed results since a computer personality test can not really know what you're describing. It's all numbers to them.

If in doubt you should consider speaking with a professional, a psychotherapist or a couple's counselor.

Posting anonymously on the net (e.g. reddit or any forum related to intimate relationships) can also help to reflect unencumbered. Many couples have relationship issues because of one of them being a narcissist.

Most narcissistic traits are obvious for bystanders but the problem is that narcissists rarely reveal their secret side without an intimate connection.

Remember: They're good at manipulating people. This includes themselves so even if you talk to them about your concerns they may try to distract you or throw a temper tantrum due to a totally unrelated subject.

It's important for your own sanity and your emotional wellbeing that you realize narcissistic traits in your partner as early as possible. If friends or family members comment on your partner being selfish or cruel, you should listen carefully. Partners brush this kind of hint away too often because they're truly in love and can't fathom their significant others being monsters in disguise.
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