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Moving On After A Toxic Relationship

A toxic relationship can really take its toll on you. It's important that you learn to escape such a relationship and that you move on.

It's easier said than done because if love is in the mix, we often make very dubious decisions for our own well-being.

It's important for moving on after a toxic relationship to stand by your words, to stand your ground firmly and to go forward and not backwards.

That's also easy on paper but difficult in real life.

Surrounding yourself with positive people that you (also) love, that's a good way to think about something else and to reconnect with people you might have neglected during the toxic relationships.

Many narcissistic partners try to have their "victim" for themselves and are very good at finding ways to keep things that way. They won't lock the doors and strap you to a chair but they may use words to convince you of whatever they desire. Words are what we use to communicate and narcissists who have perfected their "craft" are excellent talkers.

They will say anything (ANYTHING REALLY) to keep you which makes it sometimes very hard to move on. They might try to lure you back with a bouquet of red roses or something romantic like that. Or they try to convince you of their change or their will to change. If you love your toxic partner then what do you do? Moving on doesn't seem like an option anymore, especially if you're in a marriage or if you have children together.

But if your heart tells you to move on, you have to move on. It takes a strong will and the desire to be happy again; this, sadly, is something many abused partners lack after a few months or even years of being in a toxic relationship.

But what good does it do if you stay in the past? The narcissist WILL move on after a while, looking for "prey" elsewhere. He seems to be strong and dominant but in reality he or she is the opposite. Your narcissistic partner probably depends on you in one way or another and if you realize that you're actually the stronger part in your toxic relatioship, moving on is going to be a lot easier.

One of the first steps should be serious work on your self-esteem which is likely not very high after enduring some time of emotional and verbal abuse, of derogatary language and of spiteful comments. The list goes on and on...

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