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Living With a Narcissist (Can Be Hell On Earth)

Loving a narcissist is one thing but living together with one is another. Narcissists demand lots of space and rarely give it back to their partners. Sharing a home with a narcissist is not easy and often creates exaggerated tension between couples.

Typical narcissistic traits will show if you live with a narcissist long enough.

Selfishness in relationships, as one of many narcissistic traits, will be apparent if you look closely. Maybe your partner refuses to do the dishes, citing some bogus reasons? And if your partner comes down from his or her high horse and actually does do the dishes, he or she might require excessive praise for the most mundane tasks.

Narcissism is closely related to selfishness and pure egoism but it manifests quite differently in many cases.

The typical exaggerated sense of self-importance is another trait that hinders YOU living a peaceful life in your own home.

Your partner might want to renovate or maybe you've decided on this together - rarely will the narcissist really hear you out or even consider your suggestions related to the planned renovation.

A narcissist uses clever (or not so clever) manipulation tactics to get what he wants. And if all else fails he will become a cruel version of himself (lack of empathy) and force his or her partner to oblige; the alternative is an eternal struggle, lots of fighting and the opposite of a safe and cozy home.

Many argue that living with a narcissist is impossible in the long run. Others can deal with their narcissistic partners well enough that they just ignore the egomania and concentrate on the good things that happen within their relationship.

In the end it's up to you if you want to continue this kind of life. If you're uncomfortable in your own home, it may be time to move on. Or rather: to move OUT.

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